This is the new Lady Gaga song and I thought it was catchy. I am not sure I agree with the song’s message and really wanted to hear your feedback. I think it is very fitting for the society in which we live. For Women in Leadership we just had a speaker in last week that really talked about standards and core values in our professional and personal lives. Let me ask you this, at your current job do you remind yourself about what is important to you; your core values? I find a lot of the time we push away our core values to impress others, or get the buy in from others or simply to just not say anything at all. Why do we think we should make ourselves become small in order for others to prosper?
How does this relate to the song? Well I think this song is portraying the message that the girl is saying do whatever you want with my body…….anything! What does this mean? It’s saying “i’ll lower my standards so you can have your way with me. Look, when it comes to your personal or professional life it is all about integrity. Integrity is coming from that place of love, respect and courage. It is having standards and sticking to those standards. This song I feel is lowering her standards and essentially saying she feels she doesn’t deserve to have her standards met. When it comes to work life, many men or women see things in their organization that they don’t agree with and choose to remain silent. But guess what, speaking up is the price of authenticity. You really owe it to yourself to defend your own values and beliefs. In the short term, if you speak up about what you believe it may have immediate consequences but I can tell you in the long run if you betray your ethics and beliefs there is no way to view them as a win.
Sex sells. I get that. But how is this song inspiring women to stand up for themselves? This is the mixed messages that are being sent to women all over the world. As if it hasn’t been hard enough for women to climb the corporate ladder already. Now we ware hearing if we lower our standards we can be free. Ummm excuse me this is not true. When it comes to relationships, if we start lowering our standards we aren’t even living our own life. There are no boundaries and we end up dating men (or women) that turn out to abuse us……why? Well this is because we have said I’m not worth it! Do whatcha want with my body. It’s your’s. Not mine. I clearly don’t tale ownership for my own body. NO WAY hosay! It’s time we pay attention to our life, our values and core beliefs. This is what makes you you. This is what defines you and how you live your life. The minute you start dropping your standards, not listening or speaking up about what you believe in the workplace, people will take advantage of you! Time to take a stand for yourself men and women. Go for it. Have high standards, speak up and be true to yourself. It is such a more rewarding and fulfilling life. I encourage you to give it a shot! You deserve it! much love xoxo.
Gone are the days of one ruler over all. The old way of leading a group or managing people was the dictator style of leadership…..but times are definately changing. I’ve attended some really cool events lately where we’ve participated in teams and helping one another and I’ve learnt some pretty amazing things. The way I used to lead my employees was very dictatorship like. Making orders, telling them what to do and where to go. What I am not coming to realize is that this way of leading is not effective at all. Most dictators love listening to themselves speak, tend to interrupt others and simply don’t have the “buy-in” from the rest of the group. When you can shift this way of doing business, leading a group of people or simply influencing others it is crucial that you are consciously contributing as opposed to dictating. Far more people can be served when you are effectively communicating and contributing. It’s interesting to be the spectator of someone using the “dictatorship” style of teaching. It is almost like they are trying to prove to the rest of the people why and how they are so good. Rather than coming from a place of love and authenticity….I think this is how people get that stereotype of sleasy sales guy. Atleast this is how I feel when I see someone operating like this. There definately isn’t buy in from the people when someone is using the dictator leadership. Now when you are coming from a place of love and authenticity there is no need to try and prove yourself. You already have the belief in yourself and your ideas and therefore a natural byproduct is the people’s buy in to the idea. At the end of the day all humanity yearns for is to feel loved, accepted and to feel like they belong to something. So when a leader is operating from the “conscious contributor” standpoint, they are very aware of how they communicate their message or story successfully. I can speak from my own experience and when I come from a place that is suggestive or inviting rather than ordering and dictating people feel a lot more at ease and want to help you or “buy in” to your idea. Next time you are in conversation try out the technique of suggestive language and really have that belief in yourself. People want what you offer, but you must believe in yourself first before you can get others to believe in you. When you are the conscious contributor you can help much more people and without a great team you will not be able to accomplish all that you intend on. So start creating!
BOOM! Ahhh how we all remember Forest Gump. What a great show that was. Here I sit and write after realizing that its only been a month since I last posted. Well, well, well I truly apologize readers. It was not intentional at all. I don’t know how time seems to be slipping away so rapidly. I can remember my highschool graduation as if it were yesterday……ay caramba! So What is going on in life? Are you living out and breathing your dreams, passions and that fire inside you? Is it stirrring and stirring in your head and still has yet to ignite? Well what is really holding you back? Because I can almost bet money on it that what is holding you back from living and breathing your passion & purpose is the very thing that is holding you back in your professional life also. The way you do anything is the way you do everything. The way you show up personally is exactly how you should show up professionally. So are you moving in the direction of creating that legacy to leave behind you? We only get one shot at this physical time here on planet earth….what you do now really does matter. If, for some reason at some point in your day to day living you have ever found yourself saying “Does it even matter that Im doing this? How can I possibly make a difference?” Well Im here to be that reminder for you that YOU do matter and your life matters far beyond your wildest imagination. In fact, people are watching you all over the globe, little to your surprise. You are making far bigger of an impact than you realize…..so keep on keepin on. Why? Well would you rather live your life saying you tried something and it didnt work then saying “Ahhhhh I wish I woulda tried that?” Look, time isn’t slowing down one bit, in fact, especially for me it seems as though it’s speeding up…I can’t understand how but it really actually isn’t. The same # of hours and minutes are in a day. I guess the difference with me is that I have so much going on that I’m “trying” to say that Im living my life to the fullest. How do you want people to remember you? What impact do you want to have on the lives of the people you interact with? A simple thing like offering a compliment to someone may be the very freakin thing they needed to hear that day. You don’t know their story, you don’t know what they are about. So I encourage you to try it someday, if not every day. Just gracefully give away 3-5 compliments a day and see what it does for you and for them. It’s amazing all around. Celebrate your wins, successes with as many people as you can and share your dreams, live your life. Talk about what you’re up to. This reminds me a lot like travelling, especially alone. When you travel alone, you are forced to talk to others and interact with them…unless of course you are on a solitude trip (which is ok too). But the point is, when you are in situations like this, the best way to break the ice is to offer a compliment. That opens the gates up for more conversations. When you share more of yourself, the world returns that in more ways than one. Have you ever travelled? Travelled abroad, alone or in groups? What was your experience? What do you enjoy about travelling? I love this topic because I take it one step deeper and say try travelling into who you really are someday because I bet you there are some hidden gems, gifts and talents so deep down that you are afraid to share with the world. Yet, the world has been waiting forveer for you to tap into these gems. Travel into the core essence of who you really are! Why not? What do you really have to lose? I would love to hear about your most precious travel stories. Please feel free to leave comments below or share with others. Sharing is caring. Todays post is about journeying into discovering who you really are, your passions and purpose and what legacy are you wanting to leave behind? A great place to start is to visualize your ideal life. Close your eyes, sit in a relaxed position and think about if you had everything you wanted in the world, what would you have, what would you be doing, who would be with you, what do you smell in the air, what do you touch, what do you feel, it has to come alive inside of you first before you can believe it. When you see it you believe it right. So get clear on what true success & happiness looks like to you and then go out there and start sharing it with the world. We are waiting. Live your life intentionally!
Totally random, unrelated topics I know. This week I have had a lot of interesting experiences to say the least. Everything is intertwined though i’m sure. So where do I start, well SEX. Its a hot topic. I attended a womens group this week that was definately on the Christian side of things. I listened as a woman shared her story, glory and successes in life. Dont forget that 1 in 3 women on this planet have expereinced sexual abuse or rape at some point in their life. I saw how guilty she felt for having sex out of wedlock and I sat there thinking to myself like WOW….how does one person (God) have such a grip on someone. As we grow up if you went to Catholic school this is what your taught. Dont have sex until you’re married. Its wrong. Its a sin. Its bad. As tears filled her eyes, you could see this was holding a heavy weight or burden over her most of her life. How many other women feel like this? You see, I grew up in a Catholic and public school system, parents brought me to an Anglican church and so I never really took religion seriously. Only up to about 3 years ago I started going to church again, it was a place for me to expereince peace and joy. As of now, last time I went to church was about 7 months ago. WHy? Well I am starting to believe that there is a God, Universal Oneness shared by everyone on planet earth and I must say I dont agree with this idea of sin. Why? Well because it gets a hold of us and makes us feel guilty and shameful, these 2 things alone are enough to be carrying around with us on top of all the other shit we deal with in life. I was just in utter awe as I saw a young, beautiful woman feel so guilty b/c she thought she did something wrong by having sex out of wedlock.
Don’t get me wrong, I think sex is something very sacred two people share and it’s natural to want this. We’re human. We’ve all heard when your single and dating you should refrain from having sex and get to really know the person first. I can vouch for myself that this has been my full intention all along but sometimes it just doesnt work out like that, and guess what…it’s ok. Don’t beat yourself up and feel guilty. What I do invite you to do is love that moment, be grateful for the experience and intimacy you shared. Too many people have sex as one night stands, or they rush through it. Don’t. Sex is meant to take awhile. The woman’s body is erotic and foreplay is necessary. When your soul connects slowly with another soul you can truly appreciate the journey and not get to the destination (orgasm) rapidly. Sex, as seen on movies and porn shows us that it should be quick in and out, rather than a beautiful experience into feeling the other person on deeper levels. This is another topic, how porn actually cuts the connection off b/w 2 people. Because too many people are addicted to porn, every time they experience sex with someone they are trying to simulate what they saw on the movie and it takes them out of the present moment, cut off from the person that is in front of them right away. Its like a numbness.
So this was a success to withness this week for myself and reminding what sex is all about. It’s a slow, gentle process that should be shared amongst two people to connect on a deeper level, feel amazing both inside and out, connect with another human, increase dopamine levels and truly have success on all levels.
What does this have to do with success? Well studies show that people who have sex on a regular basis are generally more pleasant to be around, they’re happier and more productive with increased levels of energy. Umm who doesn’t want this?
Another great thing I realized this week is regarding how jaded and numb a lot of people are in this world. I can attest to this also. For years, I had such a low self image, low self confidence and always wanting to be better through self sabotage. Doing drugs, drinking til blacking out and really always putting myself down. The record that played continuosly in my head was that I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t pretty enough, etc. I essentially numbed myself out to the world..little to their surprise. Many people numb out how they really feel by doing these same things or they work so much, and this is their form of numbing things out or truly feeling or experiencing joy in their lives.
I had an experience with a member of my family this week that was not out of the ordinary. Drunk, hit the floor, banged head, slurred words, and continued to say they don’t have a problem and blamed everyone else. I looked at her and said “You know you complain that you are always in pain, physically mostly, and you go and do thing slike this. How is this solving your problem? Moreover, if you started seeing the good in others and in life in general, the cells in your body will start vibrating at a higher frequency, you may just stop complaining about everyting, you may be less triggered and defensive all the time. What if you could see the good in others instead of always picking out whats wrong or what needs to be fixed?
Wow this was a huge lesson for me to learn and it just rolled off my tongue so eloquently. Weird how that works right. So, as I found myself heading out on the town with friends friday night, I caught myself picking my face apart, saying I was ugly and not good enough. WHOA Melissa, watch it! Is this true? Like really true\? No. I had a few blemishes and that was it. I then saw that thought flought away in bubbles. You want to know how to release negative self talk :
IMAGINE THAT THOUGHT IN A BUBBLE AND THEN JUST SEE IT FLOAT AWAY.
This was also huge because I realized most of my life, I had this idea that I was never good enough, not feeling very secure in who I am. But I am now coming to a point where I see so much love in my life filled with amazing friends, mentors, coaches and clients. When people are secure in who they really are, they don’t need to try and prove they are the best, they have the top notch fashion designs, they make a lot of money etc, they don’t get hung up on people not responding to texts, they simply accept what is. That is all. They are open and they are students in this world. They live in the present and appreciate every moment that happens. I am so grateful for all these amazing lessons in life I have been learning this past week and hope I shed some light for you too.
Look we’re surrounded by a culture that says we are never good enough, not skinny enough, not pretty enough…we need this “product” to be better, we need more money, better job etc. F that! All you need is right inside you, no joke. The underlying factor is are you paying attention and awake to how you are living your life right now? Numbing things out, or are you present? Seeing the potential instead of the problems? Turning your guilt into gratitude. Please do this for you and for the ones who are in your life. You will thank me and thank yourself.
Much love ——and get out there and have sex if you want to, when the negative beliefs come in SEE them float away in a bubble that you POP and its gone!
First off, I would like to take the time to thank all of you who are reading and sharing the info I post. Without you, I wouldn’t have a reason to write. So this blog I have created is to inspire Travel & Transformation within. It is pretty broad but this is my intention, I don’t want to conform to one ideal or one way of thinking. I want to ignite your senses, your being and your overall self. Today’s post is regarding something I wanted to share that I read over the weekend. This book has allowed me to see my life from a much larger perspective and to give me insight into why I’ve had the relationships I’ve had, and the experiences that I have endured so far…..and of course what is best for me to focus on moving forward. Please do yourself a favor and head over to Chapters and either buy the book or sit one afternoon to read it. It may just give you a glimpse into your soul. Which I tell you, when you can start tapping into your soul you will understand your life a lot better. All my life I realize and look at how I’ve chosen to live thus far, and a large portion of it has been based on other’s idea of who I should be, simply seeking other’s approval, validation and accpetance and this can go as recent as a few months ago. I am on this constant search to feel accepted and what I’m doing to be validated….however I realize that the most important person’s approval I need is my own. There is no point of me searching for all this stuff outside of myself – WHY?- well because once I approve of me, be thankful for me and truly accept myself for who I am…..other’s opinions and judgements will no longer matter. This doesn’t mean I have the right to step all over people, and crush people along the way, it means quite the opposite. This book has reinforced this idea for me and it resonates b/c the truth of my life is just this. SO it was a nice refresher to read this.
In this book it talks about our North Node, and what sign it was in the day we were born. The Nodes of the Moon represent points of personal karmic imbalance. The North Node represents the kinds of experiences that we must work to develop in order to work with our karma, and to grow spiritually. I don’t want to get all metaphysical here so I will talk in laymans terms. My North Node is in Leo when I was born and ultimatley my people all we want is to receive love. My entire life up to this point has been seeking this approval and seeking more and more knowledge. I can tell you it hasn’t been working. I will end up living my life in constant search for this and for knowledge if I don’t just trust and believe and accept myself. When I start this new cycle and belief system, the knowledge will come to me. I have more than enough knowledge right now, it’s just about applying it and trusting in myself. And this is all good. I am so thankful I read this book at this time in my life.
I don’t know about you but for me this month, I have really had an emotional roller coaster ride so far in October. Thinking if I am doing my purpose and living it, and what I am really supposed to be doing. This weekend has been a truly grateful weekend….especially the fact that it is Thanksgiving. Have you thanked yourself for all that you have achieved, accomplished and all that is to come? I am thankful for so much in my life this weekend. A big thing is that I also forgive myself for everything. When you start to understand your soul at a deeper level all the physical things that show up and have shown up in your life will make complete sense.
This book has shown me that in order to live that authentic, purpose filled life I must be more playful and ignite that inner child. At some point in my life, I decided at a very young age, that I was an adult. I took on adult like qualities, hard worker, determined, serious and no play. Business all the time. If I want to see and feel better result, that child needs to be ignited again. Life doesn’t have to be serious all the time. You must have fun while on this journey. I also must get clear on exactly what I want, I’ve thought “this idea’ was cool or that “idea” was great and the Universe has been confused…and I’ve been confused too. No clear direction. When you are super clear the Universe can start paving the path, the people and the projects that you need to get it done. When you are not clear, either is the Universe. SO get out there and don’t be afraid of being so crystal clear on what it is you want to create in your life. For me, I haven’t been as clear as I need to be probably b/c fear was in the way. Fear of being so crystal clear. Fear of being clear makes all of us not do what we need to do. Opportunities may pass you by b/c you weren’t being that person you are meant to be. SO I invite you to take a moment and thank everything and every person in your life, this includes the people that havent believed in you, called you out and simply don’t like you. They, too have been a lesson for you. When you start to see things with a larger perspective and deeper understanding, you will vibrate at a frequency where what you truly desire will come into your life with ease and flow.
Do you know what the top 2 things people spend their money on besides the basic neccessities is 1)TRAVEL and 2) DINING OUT. So let me ask you this how many times have you wanted to take off for a weekend trip or even a weeklong trip and cannot find friends to join you, or your friends are too broke to afford a trip? I cannot even begin to tell you how many people I have spoken to recently regarding this. I have been in the travel industry for over 7 years now and see the common theme keep coming up. Clients and friends are constantly asking me why there isnt a company that caters specifically to singles. A-HA! Boom schakalaka Boom! This is true. Why are there not more travel companies that do cater to singles? There are so many “tour” companies out there that design trips for the young, the old, students, bus lovers, church goers, adventure travel and the list goes on. Many times these trips do not offer the occupant much down time and the trips are very structured. So what if there was a company that created the most EPIC, Singles trips ever! You take off for a weekend with a bunch of like minded individuals who all seek the same thing—-fun, cool, quality and exciting destinations. Did you know just out our back door there are so many neat and enticing cities and activities that you may never know even existed? Well this leads me to inviting you to stay tuned to the newest concept to the travel industry that will take singles by busloads and plane loads to incredible sights, sounds and tastes! We are creating incredible partnerships with local companies such as airlines, hotels, beverage companies and destination reps. We want you to experience your life with more fun and thrill. The thrill all lies in the mystery doesn’t it. When was the last trip you took where you didn’t have much planned and it turned out to be the funnest time you ever had!???? Exactly….its all about the mystery and being open to it, right! Whether you are looking at taking part in a VIP Rockstar experience or a chill wine & dine getaway or maybe you need that adventure aspect to it. IF you can think it, we can create it. We bring a wealth of knowledge, and the most creative itineraries you will come back wanting more. Our goal is to make you happy and have the most memorable trip of a lifetime! But we will need your help in getting the word out about this concept, the more people that join us on these trips the crazier time it will be. Stay Tuned! Check out this fun video: http://youtu.be/fCBvSPk2LWw
I know I have had a post before about Who Am I and thought it was a very hot topic so wanted this to serve as a reminder for you all. Who are you? When you are asked this question what is your response? Is it that you’re an amazing mother, a great friend, a lover, a lawyer, a doctor. Who are you without telling me what you do. Most people associate who they are with their career or profession, or the big house, fancy car or other exterior material things. But if you really think about it that is not who you are. Take all those things away and who are you really?
Life always throws us some curve balls, thats just what it does. People tend to have a fight or flight response to a lot of things that happen. We don’t have control over anything though but ourselves. SO in life I invite you to be responsible in how you respond to life. Instead of the reactionary mode, try the responsive mode. You may start to see far better outcomes than you anticipated.
But back to the Who Am I, most of us allow our self image to dictate who we are, like the things I mentioned earlier. But the real thing I’d like you to see is what a diamond you are, men or women. Often times, we give ourselves away to our career, our partner or even our kids. What happens amidst all of this expended energy elsewhere but ourselves is that many of us lose ourselves. We don’t have the excitement we once did when we were younger, we dread waking up and getting out of bed because we feel theres no purpose, the vibe is not alive in us. So how can we get this vibe alive again, how can you see your gifts and talents and how can you really shine at home, at work and in your personal life? It’s finding out what is meaningful and important to you. Your passion, purpose and drive. What really makes you go BOOM?
It’s asking for your life back. Theres no time like the present to see who you really are; bareskin and all. A cool tool you can use to see what gets your heart pumping, your blood racing and your body light up is to consciously create every day of your life. When you wake up out of bed, sit quietly with yourself just for 5 minutes a day and set your intentions in how you choose to show up and what you want to show up. Imagine you embracing what you asked for, owning it, feeling what that feels like in your body and say it out loud. What you are doing is that you are sending those vibrational thoughts into the Universe so they can be transmuted and delivered. Your thoughts are so powerful. Take note of this at the end of your day and be grateful, express your thanks for an amazing day. I’ve included a short video of Who I am. I am a ray of light. A mover and shaker.
Yay! Fall has arrived. The leaves are falling freely from the trees. There’s a beautiful smell in the air. Cool, crisp breeze hits our face. Seasons are changing, no longer summer and we’re fully embracing fall. How do you look at it? With disgruntled energy that winter is just around the corner or happy or upset that summer’s gone? Everything we do is all about perspective. How you see things and the world around you. Have you ever looked at seasons changing with the perspective I present in this article? I invite you to do so:)
You see, it cannot turn to autumn or fall without summer fully being over and ready to let go. Let go of the old and open up to the new. When seasons change, this is an opportunity for us to do some shifting as well. Sometimes we may be afraid of the new because we don’t know what it looks like, the unknown. This is where absolute possibility can be created. This is where new beliefs, habits and patters can be started. You cannot have one foot stuck in the past or the old and one foot in the new. It has to be all in or nothing at all. Isn’t this how the game of life is played anyways? All in or not in at all. How do you grow if you’re half stuck in what you used to think was real? There tends to be a void from where you were to where you are going, that no man’s land or what I like to call fear or resistance. It’s interesting because we just had a new moon last night and with a new moon comes new things, new experiences. It is a very powerful time right now, especially the month of October. It really is all about resetting your old ways of thinking, your paradigms and starting to shape the new ideas, and life experiences you truly want and desire. This reset is very important to listen to your body. If you feel tired, or your computer is having issues this means it’s telling you to take a break. go for a walk, do yoga, just some simple stretches will allow your brain to breathe. This month I encourage you to take on new and exciting feats, whatever that looks like for you? Scared? Stuck in that no man’s land called fear? F*&^ it! Start small. Write one simple goal down a day, something that is achievable for you, and at the end of the day give thanks. Next week we are actually hosting a FREE webinar you may be interested in. It is all about redefining your purpose, passions and goals. A simplified way you can start living your life in alignment just by using these techniques 10 minutes a day. This is what all the experts like Bob Proctor, Tony Robbins, T Harv Eker use and you can get the insider knowledge next week. Rethink what the different seasons are in your life. How are you moving in the direction you want to be, or are you paralyzed by fear, stuck in that no man’s land? Id love to hear what you have to say. Cheerio!
You ever thought of travel being linked to your personal growth? How many times have you gone on vacation and tried new foods? explored unknown places? met new people? experienced new things? Ever think that this is actually food for your soul? I have been involved in the travel industry for over 7 years now….and what a journey it has been. In the last 10 years I have travelled to a fair amount of places and just more recently I am seeing the actual benefits that it really does for a human being. It really ignites your soul, your imagination and your creativity. Far too many people in the western world take the vacation days from work but they don’t venture out, they take staycations! I am inviting you to really get out into the world and start exploring, it’s never too late.
Taking time away from work allows your body to repair and replensih itself. Travel and vacations also really inspire creativity as it seems ideas flow to you naturally while on vacation b/c you don’t have phones ringing off the hook or fires to put out. Most people that arrive home from vacation feel more energized and are more productive at work, so take a load off!
In the next coming months I will be embarking on a mini 10 day trip to Costa Rica to explore the diversity the country has to offer, the beautiful beaches, the amazing cuisine and most of all meet the locals of some tucked away hidden gems. I will be blogging and video blogging about the trek every day. Costa Rica is one of those places that are still untouched in many places….which is why I want to explore. You can surf, paddleboard, take a yoga teacher training course, party til the wee hours of the morning or simply just relax on the beach.
When you are not growing you are dying. So what is it that you are doing to find more about you? I find with a lot of the clients I coach that they are so focused on helping and assisting with other’s needs that they forget about themselves…which is a great quality but when will you start remembering you—–when your 70? It’s time to live your life now and on your terms. If you have been feeling stuck and just wandeering around in life aimlessly, what are you doing differently to get different results? Remember the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.
If you feel money has been holding you back from actually taking a vacation somewhere, what if there was a way that I can help you save up for that dream vacation. What if you could have someone walk with you, give you encouragement, and simply guide you? Imagine taking a vacation somewhere outside of your hometown, meeting new people, feeding your soul AND leaving the place better than when you left? How about throwing in a bit of volunteer work while on vacation? How many times have you taken a vacation and left a place better than when you arrived? I remember one year I was in Jamaica and we volunteered through the Sandals Foundation. We helped build a school for these kids down there. They watched us dig dirt, plant trees, paint the school and many other things. Perhaps these kids didn’t even know how to do any of this but I can tell you when we finished that work the smiles that light up these children’s face was remarkable. So this is another thought when you go on vacation, give back to those less fortuante. Happy Travels. Hey if you want more info on any of this visit these websites: http://www.travelchicks.ca http://www.melissamacky.com
Would you agree that we live in a world full of chaos? There’s disruption, traffic, overload of information, people everywhere, alarms, buzzers, our mind chatter, loud music, and the list goes on. This is what I call chaos. It’s life. It is what it is. Nothing more, nothing less. The only meaning it has is the meaning we give it. So how do you control all of this? Ever feel like it’s all getting so noisy and you feel like your head is spinning, sometimes out of control. It’s like your head is hovering and your body just exists? Weird isn’t it? No not at all. Again, this is life. And guess what you can call this confusion OR you can take responsibiity for what’s going on and actually control all of this. Today marks one of those really busy days for me, I guess I would say chaotic. Most of it all exists in my own mind. But I choose today to take a stand. I stand for my business, for what I believe in and I take responsibility for having all these grand ideas and not putting them into action but today is different I am choosing to respond instead of react to all these grand ideas. I was on a call yesterday with Bob Proctor, who I had the privelage of having lunch with last year and picking his brain. That is who I am pictured with in this blog. Well he has reinspired me yesterday with getting so fricken clear on my vision and my goals. Look, when we have all these amazing ideas and are just talking about them we are doing a disservice not only to ourselves but to all those people we encounter on a daily basis. We are holding back from taking that next step. This could be for many reasons, fear, the thought that we need money to act on ideas, not feeling we deserve success or simply because we are not clear on really where we are headed. So today, the stand I am taking for my business, for my employees and for myself is to map out my vision and goals. I am determined to get so crystal clear on the next 6 months. I am ready to play at a higher level, play bigger and serve far more people than I am currently serving. Why? Well I know I am here to truly serve people in ways that I can’t even imagine yet. But that is the whole point, not being attached to the outcome but being clear, determined and focused on what I want to accomplish. Bob gave a great story on the phone yesterday about his 333 story. To sum it up, he basically said draw a T on a piece of paper, on the left side write “reasons why you can’t” and then draw a huge X all on that column and then write the word NEXT, on the right side write “how can I reach this goal” This is such a powerful exercise b/c it’s seems to be so easy to think of reasons why we cannot achieve something, so say it out loud, talk about why you cant then say NEXT…and move to the column on how you can achieve it! BOOM, something so simple yet so many of us refuse to do the work. We live in this “entitlement” age where we expect the success will just be sprinkled to us by tinkerbell one night, but it takes hard work. I know there are a few individuals in the world who have been handed success but the majority of the very successful people are no different than you and I. The difference between those successful people and yourself – action. It requires hard work to get you from point a to b, but so worth the ride once you get there. So there’s some food for thought this evening. I must go and get back to my vision and goal organization tonight. Please feel free to share your comments and thoughts. I want to start these conversations about growth, success and pure joy! Take control of your life instead of the chaos & confusion taking control of things for you. ~Namaste~